A: When infidelity is suspected and your emotions are high, you are likely to make some serious mistakes if you lose your composure and become confrontational with your spouse. The guidelines below are suggested to all HPI clients and have been proven effective for over 23 years.

1) DO NOT confront your spouse/partner with your suspicions. This will prove to be difficult, but in the long run it is a very effective component to getting the answers you want and need. Confronting your spouse without concrete proof will only serve to educate them to the mistakes they have made and they will become more cautious and creative in finding ways to carry on their relationship. Your spouse is very unlikely to admit to everything. If pressured, they will only admit to what they believe you already know, nothing more, leaving you frustrated and without the answers you want.

2) Become an Oscar winning actress/actor at this point. Do not reveal anything you know and appear to remain in the dark until you have the answers you need.

3) Contact a representative at HPI to discuss your situation, determine strategies and get referrals to other professionals you may eventually need.

4) Let the professionals at HPI manage the case. Avoid the temptation to do your own investigation.

5) If appropriate, interview legal professionals, choose who you want to represent you in the event representation is needed and start documenting everything your attorney asks you to.

6) Once HPI has completed the investigation, we will make suggestions and recommendations on how you should proceed based on your intentions. If your intention is to file for divorce, we will always strongly recommend that you still do not confront your spouse with any evidence. Instead, leave it to your attorney to use the evidence obtained in the most effective way for your case. HPI representatives will be able to assist you throughout the process.